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Contact Judge Hayek:
Based in downtown Kirkland, Retired Judge Carolyn Hayek performs civil wedding ceremonies in her office in the historic Brooks Building, as well as in homes, halls, hotels and parks throughout the Puget Sound area. The fee for in-office downtown Kirkland weddings is $160. The fee for other Kirkland locations is $220. Judge Hayek's fee for most other wedding locations in King and Snohomish County is $300, plus an extra fee if the distance is over 30 miles. Both heterosexual and same sex couples are welcome to schedule with Judge Hayek.
To schedule a wedding
To schedule a wedding with Judge Hayek from 1 week to 6 months before your wedding date, first check to see if your date is available by looking at the schedule of available dates. Then send Judge Hayek an e-mail at HayekServices@gmail.com. E-mail is the preferred means to request information. In your message, please include:
(1) Daytime, evening and week-end phone numbers
(2) Date, time and location of wedding
(3) Full names of both parties.
If you are unable to send e-mail, please phone Judge Hayek's office at: (425) 822-2794. If she is not available when you call, please be prepared to leave a message with as much information as possible. In most cases, Judge Hayek will respond to messages no later than the next business day. If you have received no response in 48 hours, please try again. If the date is available and you choose to schedule your wedding with Judge Hayek, a deposit of $60 will be required to hold your date and time on her calendar.
Judge Hayek is a graduate of Carleton College, Northfield, Minnesota, and the University of Chicago Law School. She practiced law for nine years, half of that time with a large corporate law firm in downtown Seattle and half that time as the proprietor of her own firm in Federal Way, Washington. She served as a full-time judge of the Federal Way District Court for 13 years. Judge Hayek was employed for two years as Executive Director of the People's Memorial Association. She is an active member of the American Association of University Women (AAUW), having served as State AAUW President for Washington and currently serving as Co-President of the Kirkland-Redmond Branch. She is also a member of the Unitarian Universalist Church. Judge Hayek is an active community volunteer, having served 8 years on the Kirkland Planning Commission. She has also coordinated an English as a Second Language Project for AAUW and is a board member and officer of Eliot Institute.
Obtaining a marriage license
A marriage license must be obtained no more than 60 days but at least three days before the date of the wedding. You may apply in person or by mail. In King and Snohomish Counties, a marriage license costs $64 (cash). Call (206) 296-4021 or (800) 325-6165 X6-4021 for more King County information. Recorded information for King County is available at (206) 296-3933, including information in Spanish. In Snohomish County, call (425) 388-3627 or (425) 388-3483. Marriage licenses are valid throughout the State of Washington. While most King County couples obtain their marriage licenses at the King County Administration Building in downtown Seattle, at 500 Fourth Avenue, Rm. 311, Kirkland residents may find it more convenient to go to the Northshore Community Service Center, located at: 10808 N.E. 145th St.; Bothell, WA 98011. PH: 206-296-9840. The Northshore office is open Mondays (10AM to 5PM) and Tuesdays (10AM to 7PM) only.
Information for the Judge
Two to six weeks prior to the wedding, send or deliver a package of documents to:
Brooks Building, Suite 1
611 Market St.
Kirkland, WA 98033-5422
Please be sure to use the correct postage. At least a dollar and eight cents ($1.12) of postage (2 oz.) will be required. If you don't mind the extra expense, Priority Mail is a good way to send your paperwork. You can request electronic confirmatiion for a small extra fee. However, don't request a signed receipt, because that can delay delivery. If you prefer to bring the paperwork by in person, please call first to arrange a time. To reach the Brooks Building, take the 85th St. exit from I-405, going West (toward downtown Kirkland and Lake Washington) until the arterial curves to the right and becomes Market St. Look for the Brooks Building on your left about 3 blocks north of the curve. The building is usually open from 9 to 3:30 Monday-Friday. Papers can be left for Judge Hayek during those times, even if she is not in, by sliding the envelope under her office door, Suite 1, at the top of the stairs. Look for her name on the door before leaving paperwork. Payment by cash or check can be left in the envelope. If the door to the Brooks Building is locked, ring the doorbell or phone HAYEK SERVICES at 425-822-2794.
Judge Hayek usually uses the Simple Wedding Ceremony, Simple Ceremony - Revised or the Special Wedding Ceremony, but any ceremony can be modified by the parties in any way they choose. Click on the name of the ceremony to see the complete text. The Simple Ceremony Revised is updated to use more modern language, in response to requests from non-native speakers. The Partner Ceremony is intended for couples who have been together for a long time, but are now entering into a legal marriage. Weddings can be performed in English, Spanish, or German.
You can also find sample wedding ceremonies in the book Into the Garden: A Wedding Anthology, edited by Robert Hass & Stephen Mitchell. The book also contains (pages 151-155) some very thoughtful quotations from Rainer Maria Rilke. Another book to look at is Robert Fulghum's From Beginning to End. It contains some interesting thoughts about wedding ceremonies. You may also want to look through books in the library or your local bookstore for ideas.
Hints for a Successful Wedding
Based on Judge Hayek's many years of experience officiating at weddings, she can often offer practical suggestions to make your special day go more smoothly. Click here to read some of her suggestions. Also, you might find her Rehearsal Checklist useful. If you are looking for other local wedding vendors, go to HAYEK SERVICES Referrals or the wedding links at ExploreKirkland.com. If you want to learn more about Kirkland restaurants, hotels and local events, visit ExploreKirkland.com.
Judge Hayek performs small weddings in her office in downtown Kirkland. This space is appropriate for weddings involving no more than 6 people. You can see pictures of HAYEK SERVICES on facebook. If you are on facebook, be sure to "like" HAYEK SERVICES. You can also post a comment or a wedding picture there. While many weddings are performed in churches, hotels, country clubs, or community centers, many other locations are possible. One of the most popular places to get married is in your own home or the home of a friend or relative. Other inexpensive locations include the clubhouse of an apartment or condominium complex where you or a friend or relative live, a gazebo or shelter in a public park, or a restaurant, either in a private room or in the normal dining area during a time when the restaurant is not crowded. Your local Chamber of Commerce can help you find an appropriate facility to rent.
In Kirkland, the Woodmark Hotel, (425) 827-1986, is a popular rental location. The Pavilion in Marina Park provides a scenic outdoor setting. Its use can be combined with the nearby Heritage Hall. For park and Heritage Hall information call Nicci Osborn at (425) 587-3342 or visit the City of Kirkland Parks Department website: City of Kirkland Rental Facilities. Northlake Unitarian Universalist Church, in downtown Kirkland, is available for rental at a reasonable cost. The officiant for weddings at the church may be a minister or a judge. For further information, call 425-822-0171. The Courtyard by Marriott Hotel in the Totem Lake area of Kirkland (425) 602-3200, is appropriate for ceremonies with up to 60 guests, as well as for overnight accommodations and wedding receptions or meals. Also consider the upscale Heathman Hotel (425) 284-5800, which can accommodate a ceremony or reception for about 100 people. You might also want to take advantage of their Trellis Restaurant or Penterra Spa. A new venue just outside Kirkland is JM Cellars, located in neighboring Woodinville. They can accommodate about 50 people for a ceremony and reception, including wine tasting and a visit to their winery. If you are looking for a location for a reception or meal following an office ceremony, vist the Explore Kirkland website to see a list of local restaurants -- we have a lot of excellent places where you can celebrate.